The mind is a garden you tend to. If left uncared for, it would feed off the hidden things you have yet to heal. - Juliet Diaz
Your mind is going through a lot. We often don't think about the extreme load it has to handle and leave it uncared for. Especially now, with all the world issues and scares, while trying to hold on to dear life for some sort of normalcy, we must check in with ourselves.
I'll be the first to admit that life has been a whirlwind since late 2019; I mean, where did 2021 go? All the things that could go wrong did, and we are still recovering, still in the middle of it all, and still holding onto hope. NEVER give up hope. We got this, have you met yourself? You are capable of coming back to the self. You are capable of extraordinary things.
I do, however, want to make something clear. Perfect is a trash word, and we are not aiming for perfect, let alone alignment. We are human, Spirit, living in actual hard times and losing our shit here and there is OKAY! The key is to fill our lives with what supports us best mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Some may say a challenging task, that is true; however, we must acknowledge that it will not happen overnight. It is a journey.
This is my 1st blog post, like, ever. I can already tell you that I hate having to come up with catchy titles to get you over to my blog lol. Still, I can also tell you that I am here to genuinely guide and support you to help you create that mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual support for yourself. I myself am on this journey and have learned a lot about my true self, self-healing, self-discovery, and creating a life that not only supports my spiritual and human wellbeing but one that I love intimately.
so without further ado, 5 tips for a more peaceful mind.
1. Stop giving a f##k about people who do not care about you. Seriously, this is a huge stressor, and not to mention it sucks the life force out of you. Whether it is people online, social media, friends, or family. Let them go. Make room for people who will love and support you. People who get you and don't only take from you, ask of you, and deplete you. You deserve better. It may take some time to connect with those new people or find them, but it is worth it.
2. Let go of control. Life is not something you can control. You may think you can, but you are totally kidding yourself. Harsh words? Well, I am here to be of support to you and give it to you as it is. No sugar coating. Enough of that shit. It is all over the place. We need real honest and raw advice, talk, and support. We must stop playing into that delusion because life is mysterious, magical, scary, beautiful, chaotic, peaceful... it is all the things. And therefore, we must learn to build a relationship with life itself and learn to flow with her. The best thing we can do is create a life support for ourselves in the things we do like daily rituals, routine, self-care that help us navigate through all of life's bumps and rocky roads—getting us through the hard and appreciating the good.
3. Find what brings you joy and do more of that. I know so many people who get caught up in the hustle and grind. So much so that they forget what truly makes them spark. What truly ignites joy in their hearts and souls. For me, it took taking time off and revisiting my life, more like interrogating it. Every aspect of it I mindfully looked over and asked myself the hard questions. Is this aligned with me, or is it because of influence? Making sure not to let the outside world dictate what my life should look and feel like. I did away with A TON of things and SLOWLY added joy in. From what I watched, bought, read, listened to, who I chilled with, what I created, my work, the clothes I wore, what I ate, and relationships—all of it. Start small and work your way deeper.
4. Social media, but limit it. How many times have you gotten lost in the rabbit hole? I've been there way too many times. I realized that being on social media can be toxic to your mental and emotional wellbeing, and it can block your creativity. Consuming way too much of anything is not a good thing, but we are wired to consume and eventually create addictions. Yes, social media is addictive. So how do we make it work for us instead of harming us? I think I will do an entire blog post on this, but some things to start with are:
Limit the time you are on it. Set a time allowed on social media. I have my phone set to where it only lets me get in 1 hour a day. And on weekends only 30min. You are not missing out on anything; you can always check in with your fave accounts when you go on. You do what works best for you.
Speaking of your fav accounts, clean up your following list from time to time. I do a six-month clean-up on mine. Go through everyone you follow and ask yourself if that particular account supports your wellbeing or not. Is it something you are genuinely interested in? Is it someone you are close friends with, and does this person mean something to me? Unfollow accounts that stress you out, trigger you, or just do not align with you. (bonus tip: you can mute accounts. You can go to someone's account, say a family member that gets on your nerves lol, and mute their posts and or stories instead of unfollowing them. They will never know.
Look for accounts that spark joy! I started to follow more food bloggers, decor inspo, plant lovers, and other things that spark joy in me—creating your special feed that supports you rather than harms you.
5. Ugh, choosing the 5th was hard. I am used to writing books, so keeping it short will be something I have to get used to. For variety, I chose self-compassion. Self-compassion is my secret weapon in maintaining a peaceful mind. I did not implement this until early this year after my mental breakdown; I'll share on this more soon. I was always so hard on myself. And I am sure you may be too. Many of us are, and most times, we don't even realize it. I realized that the same language, feedback, criticism, negativity that others used on me while I was a child and even older in toxic relationships and friendships I used on myself. It stays with you if you do not catch them and heal them. I will write more on this as well, it is a lot to jam into a blog post, but it is life-changing! Find more compassion with yourself and be gentle with yourself. You are doing the best you can, do not let anything or anyone make you think otherwise. We are healers healing ourselves. Be kind.
Thank you for taking the time to come over, I appreciate your time. I truly hope this was helpful and that you will continue to come over =0) Please leave a comment so that we can connect, I love reading what you have to say. Until next time.
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